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MBTI Guide: ESFJ - The Giver

 

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The Giver is a social personality, who values social relationships and loves supporting and caring for others. She is never shy about participating in social gatherings and activities, but the giver is often the host of them.


Muti is a personality who loves teamwork and encourages all team members to participate and interact with the team. He has responsibility and adheres to orders, laws, and public regulations. Many genuinely care about the people around them. He is sensitive to criticism and likes to be appreciated for his good deeds. His tendencies: are open, sensual, emotional, and strict. It is one of the guardians according to the moods of Chrissy's theory. The percentage of donors, according to a study conducted on a sample of the American population, ranges between 9-13%.


Giver personality overview:


The giver's main state is external; through it, he deals with matters and treats them according to his feelings about them or their compatibility with his value system. The secondary state is internal, in which he absorbs and understands things tangibly using his five senses. The Giver is a people-loving person who is genuinely concerned for others. The Giver uses his five senses and the strict side of his personality to gather detailed information about others and uses this information to support the judgments he makes. He wants people to like him, and he can bring out the best in them. Muti is distinguished and good at reading others and understanding their points of view. The giver's desire to be loved and to make everything acceptable to others makes him the best supporter of others. People like to be near the giver, it makes them feel good about themselves.


The giver takes his responsibility seriously and can be relied upon. He values security and stability and focuses on learning about the details of life. The giver can see what needs to be done before others and does everything in his power to finish that work. He loves doing such things, and he is the best at doing them.


The giver is active and affectionate. He needs people's approval and satisfaction to feel satisfied with himself. He can be greatly damaged by indifference and cannot understand cruelty. The giver is a very giving person and gets a lot of self-satisfaction from the happiness of others. Wants to be appreciated for its own sake, and his. He is very sensitive to the feelings of others and can freely give attention and care to those who need it. Because he is so compassionate and caring, he may have difficulty seeing or believing the truth about the people he cares about.


Because his personality is extroverted and emotional, the Giver focuses on reading the feelings and thoughts of others. He feels a constant need to be loved and to be in a leadership position. He is good at reading the thoughts and feelings of others, and he often changes his behavior to please those with him at a given moment.


The value system of the giver is externally defined. The giver usually has an understanding and perception of how things should be and is not shy or reluctant to express those ideas. However, the giver measures his value system against the world around him, rather than evaluating it internally. He may have a strong value and moral system, but it is defined by the values and ethics of the society in which the giver lives, and not emanating from his feelings and thoughts.


The giver who was raised and raised in a strict environment filled with generosity, good morals, and good intentions will grow up to be the most generous and kind person imaginable. He will take the morsel from his mouth and give it to the needy without hesitation or second thought. This type of giver, preferring others over oneself and loving what is good for them is pure, authentic, and stems from their nature. As for the giver who did not have this advantage, growing up in a strict environment full of generosity and good morals, he will likely have many morals that are under consideration. In that case, the giver in good faith believes that his or her ideas and values are free from deviation. The giver does not have the internal ability to determine the values that will guide him and correct his path. In our modern time, this giver will be able to obtain justification for whatever values he believes in. This kind of giver is really dangerous. His extroversion and emotionality help him control and manipulate people, and his lack of intuition prevents him from seeing the big picture. Unlike his teacher cousin (ENFJ), the Giver does not have the intuition that helps him see the consequences of his actions. The Giver will seek to manipulate people to achieve his goals, believing that in doing so he is following a code of ethical behavior and that it is for the good.


The Giver generally tends to control his surroundings. His nature makes him impose order and seek to end discussions. The giver feels comfortable when he lives in tidy and organized surroundings. He is likely to feel uncomfortable working on abstract theories, theoretical concepts, and analyses that neglect the human aspect. He enjoys imposing order and structure and will excel in tasks that require him to do so. But the giver must be careful not to try to control people who do not want to be controlled.


The Giver greatly respects law and order and expects others to do so as well. He is a traditionalist. He likes to work and develop in businesses and places where others have worked before him, rather than working on a new project that no one has touched. His need for security calls him to follow any existing system or leadership. This sometimes makes him blindly accept any law or system without questioning it or understanding it.


A giver who has not developed himself perfectly may feel a lack of self-confidence, and focus all his attention on meeting the needs of others and making them happy. Or he may be obsessed with controlling and manipulating people, or overly sensitive, suspicious of people's bad intentions even when there are none.


The characteristics of the giver in general are often identical to the characteristics of women in contemporary societies. Despite this, the male muti does not appear to have women's traits at all. In contrast, the giver will be aware of the temperaments and roles of people of both genders and will be more comfortable working in a field that matches his gender. A giving man will have men's traits (except that he is more sensitive than average), while a giving woman will be very feminine.


The Giver is compassionate, sympathetic, helpful, cooperative, tactful, humble, practical, meticulous, organized, and enthusiastic. He enjoys the customs, traditions, and security of his community, and will be in constant contact and have a strong relationship with his friends and family.


Giver as husband/wife:

The giver is a caring person and gives his wife special attention and care. He is very traditional and takes his marital obligations seriously. Once the giver enters into the marital relationship, you can be sure that he will put all his effort into making the relationship a success and fulfilling its obligations and duties.


The giver wants to be understood and appreciated for who he is, and for what he gives to others. This desire sometimes reaches the point of making him emotionally demanding, and if that encouragement and thanks are not provided continuously, the giver will resort to the method of seeking thanks just to satisfy his desire to be listened to. The Giver hates criticism and disagreements to a great extent. He takes any criticism as an accusation and a threat. This is one of the weaknesses that the giver must be aware of. When he faces negative reactions or does not listen to expressions of thanks and encouragement, the giver may become severely depressed and frustrated. Therefore, gratitude and encouragement is the greatest gift a husband can give to the presenter.


The giver tends to be aware of the social situation and what people think. Therefore, this should not conflict with his marital relationship.


Being very practical, the Muti will be very good at household management matters. He is likely to be responsible for taking care of the household's daily needs and managing financial matters. The Giver is interested in security and living in peace, and is willing to do his part to achieve this for himself, his husband, and his family.


The giver has a strong need to belong to something, whether it is an institution, tradition, or family. This need will make him a very social person. He will attend celebrations and events and will be keen to hold some of them. Most likely, the giver would like his wife to join him on these occasions.


Although any relationship between people of the 16 classifications may be successful, the presenter's natural partner or spouse is the therapist (INFP) or the artist (ISFP).


Giver as a parent:


As a father or mother, the Giver is very committed to his role and duties, and will freely express his love and encouragement to his children. He expects his children to return respect and obedience to him, and he will not tolerate any behavioral deviation on their part. His personality is characterized by the characteristic of “emotion.” This makes the issue of punishment and imposing discipline on children difficult. If the giver does not work to overcome this, he will use indirect methods of punishment, such as manipulating his children to make them feel guilty. This is a problem that the provider would prefer to work to overcome, as punishment is more effective and healthy if the matter calls for punishment.


The giver is a servant person who seeks to provide services and make those around him happy. Accordingly, the children of Muti will likely have all practical needs met. A giving father will provide his children with an organized environment, in which each individual's boundaries, needs, and rights are clearly defined.


The giver’s tendency to control and control, his tendency to be traditional, in addition to his focus on providing security and stability for his family, all suggest that the giver, during some periods of his fatherhood, would be strict and extremely controlling of his children’s actions. However, the giver will be the advocate and voice of his children before others. Muti's children often rebel against their father's decisions and authority at some point, and this will cause pressure on the parents and children. In this case, the giver will tend to manipulate his children's feelings to make them feel guilty for their actions. Depending on the extent of this manipulation, it may cause damage to the relationship between the giver and his children.


The giver’s children remember their father as a loving, compassionate father who created order, guidance, and principles for them at home.


Giver as a friend:


Although the Giver puts his family before his friends, he reserves a place for close friendships and feels loyal to his closest friends. Because he always feels that he must carry out his duties in his life, friendship may turn into a duty and responsibility that the giver bears. But, in general, the Giver gets a lot of pleasure from his friendships, and he reciprocates his friends' love and kindness.


There are two problems that the giver often faces in his friendship relationships: First, he cannot give things for free, he always expects something in return. Secondly, he has difficulty believing anything bad about a close friend.


People appreciate the giver for his sincere concern for people, his tenderness, and his kind heart. He can see the best in people and make people feel good about themselves. Therefore, the giver may be able to form close relationships with many people, of different personality types.


The giver likely has a tidy, attractive, and well-furnished home. The Giver loves celebrations and events, and to enjoy himself. He wants to feel a sense of belonging to something, an institution, or a tradition and often has a relatively large circle of social relationships.


Strengths in social life:


  • Exert a lot of effort and time to accomplish his duties and obligations.
  • Affectionate, good-natured, and encouraging by nature.
  • Servant, loves to help others and please them.
  • Practical, takes responsibility, and can be relied upon to accomplish daily duties.
  • Optimistic and loved by everyone, people are subconsciously attracted to him.
  • Good at handling money.
  • Traditional and likes to keep family relationships strong, he will often celebrate family occasions and try to involve the whole family in them.


Weakness in social life:


  • He does not feel comfortable with change, or moving to new places.
  • He hates criticism and conflicts.
  • He needs a lot of encouragement to feel good about himself.
  • He may become obsessed with knowing how people view him.
  • He does not easily accept negative facts about people close to him.
  • He does not pay attention to his own needs and often sacrifices himself.
  • He may use the method of making others feel guilty to manipulate them and take from them what he wants.

Characteristics of the giver at work:


  • Organizer.
  • sincere.
  • He can be relied upon to work on things until they are finished.
  • Enjoys setting up orders and schedules.
  • Enjoys interacting with people.
  • Kind-hearted and sympathetic.
  • He tends to put the demands of others before his own needs.
  • Very good at giving care and attention.
  • Very cooperative, effective team member.
  • Practical and humble.
  • Values peaceful coexistence and security.
  • He enjoys variety at work, but will also perform routine tasks.
  • Needs encouragement and approval from others.
  • He feels self-satisfaction and happiness from helping others.
  • He lives in the present and hates theorizing and speculating about the future.

Works that suit the giver:


  • Home management and economics.
  • nurse.
  • Teacher.
  • Administrative or supervisor.
  • Child care.
  • Family doctor.
  • Charity.
  • Office Manager.
  • Counselor or social worker.
  • Accounting or auditor.
  • Assistant Supervisor.

Famous givers:


  • Harry Truman (US President).
  • Gerald Ford (US President).
  • Colin Powell (American politician).
  • Sam Walton (Founder of Wal-Mart).
  • Larry King (TV presenter).
  • Barbara Walters (writer and presenter).
  • Vin Diesel (actor).
  • Sarah Palin (American politician).
  • Daniel Goleman (American writer - author of the book Emotional Intelligence).

Enhancing Giver's strengths:


Your personality is superior to other personalities in several aspects. Knowing these points, focusing on them, and developing them, will help you stand out and excel over your peers. Givers will notice these qualities in themselves, which they should focus on and nurture:
  • A strong sense of right and wrong.
  • Quick empathy with others.
  • The ability to share feelings with others.
  • Great concern for the comfort of others.
  • The ability to express honestly and frankly about the things around them.
  • Sensitive to the needs of others, especially those in need.
  • They value customs, traditions, and safe and stable living.

A giver who develops the Introverted Feeling aspect of his personality will obtain the following:
  • The ability to see the impact of situations on people internally.
  • The ability to see how to spread reassurance and comfort among people within one team.
  • The ability to use stories and situations to explain or express ideas, which qualifies them to be good teachers of children or adolescents.
  • The ability to make administrative decisions related to people.
  • Improving their taste in choosing decor or clothes.
  • The ability to see beyond the scope of the current situation, and thus they can adjust their values and choices according to the situation.


Expected problems for the giver:


Most of the problems that are expected to exist in a giver stem from his social affection overriding the rest of his personality characteristics and some of these characteristics may appear in him:
  • He may not be able to judge the best options.
  • When it clashes with clear rational logic, he may not accept it and may arbitrarily try to distort the facts.
  • He may find it difficult to get rid of the feeling that someone is not good.
  • He may find it difficult to admit anything that contradicts what he believes in or believes is the best way to do something.
  • He may attribute his arbitrariness and his concepts, which he cannot convince others of, to the fact that people “should” do work according to his way.
  • He may become extremely confused when faced with a situation that requires simple technical expertise or careful thinking.
  • He may only see his point of view, and act with extreme exclusion from the opinions and ideas of others.
  • He may find it difficult to understand logic verbally and may interrupt others while they are trying to explain.
  • He may feel overconfident about his ability to read the feelings and needs of others, and therefore he may make mistakes in reading others.
  • He may be weak and easily attracted to myths or manipulation by the media.
  • He may react quickly and emotionally to situations that would have been better handled more slowly and carefully.
To overcome these points, you must focus on opening your mind to better understand the world. To help you accept external information, you must convince yourself that your worldview will not be affected and is not threatened by considering other people's opinions and viewpoints. Also remember that people's views and the judgments they make about the world are not isolated from reality, but rather are a reality from the big picture of the world.

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