The counselor is a strong personality, but
calm and reserved. Sensitive and unique, he is distinguished by his commitment
to what he works on until it is accomplished. He is very sensitive reads the
feelings of those around him, and cares a lot about supporting them. Mostly, he
has his value system that he believes in and adheres to to the highest degree.
He tends to be independent rather than a leader or a follower.
The counselor is a personality who achieves inner
satisfaction from helping and assisting others. He is a good listener and
analyst. That is why he was called a counselor, because he sympathizes with
those who face a problem, listens to him, and does not feel satisfied with
himself unless he can help the person with the problem. Personal tendencies:
introverted, intuitive, emotional, strict. The counselor is an idealist
according to Cressey's theory of temperaments. The percentage of consultants,
according to a study on a sample of the American population, is the lowest
among all personalities and ranges between (1-3%).
Counselor personality
overview:
The counselor's main state is internal, through which
he deals with matters according to what his intuition dictates to him. As for
the secondary situation, it is external, where the counselor deals and decides
according to his feelings and emotions, or what is compatible with his values.
The counselor is a kind person, caring for the people around her, and complex.
The counselor is also an artist and a creator, living in a world of hidden
meanings and possibilities.
The counselor pays great attention to placing things
in his surroundings in a neat and organized manner. He also puts a lot of
effort into discovering a mechanism and system for getting things done, and
constantly sets and rearranges his life priorities. In contrast, in his
thinking, the counselor follows a spontaneous style and uses his intuition and
intuition. The counselor recognizes and understands things intuitively, without
having prior knowledge or without knowing how he arrived at the understanding.
He is often right, and he knows it. As a result, the consultant trusts and
relies heavily on his intuition and instinct in the operations he carries out.
This conflict between the world of external and internal counsel makes him not
as strict as the group of strict “J” types. Or you may notice some signs of a
lack of order and order in the consultant’s surroundings, such as his office
being constantly untidy.
Some consultants possess an unnatural power of
anticipation and intuition when it comes to people and things. The counselor
often feels that something has happened or is happening to someone close to
him. Sometimes the counselor does not understand this feeling, and may not be
able to express it. Therefore, most counselors are introverted, sharing only
what they want to share with others. The counselor has a deep and complex
personality, often unique and difficult for others to understand. The counselor
chooses to keep a part of himself secret that is seen by others as mysterious.
As complex as the counselor is, he is equally kind.
The counselor holds a special place in his heart for the people he chooses, and
they have often seen the depth of love and devotion that the counselor
possesses. The counselor cares about people's feelings and tries to be kind and
avoid hurting their feelings. He is very sensitive to differences and
conflicts, and cannot tolerate or deal with them well. In conflict situations,
it may push the peaceful counselor into a state of attack and anger. The nature
of the counselor makes him transfer tensions and disagreements into his body,
which may lead to health problems when he is under a lot of pressure.
Because he has a strong intuition and prediction that
often comes true, the consultant is very confident in his instinct and
expectations above all else. This pushes the consultant to be stubborn and
ignore the opinions of others because he believes that he is always right. On
the other hand, a counselor is a person, no matter how perfect he is, he always
sees that there is more that he could have achieved. The counselor rarely feels
satisfied with himself, feeling that there is much to be done to improve his
situation and the community around him. He believes in continuous development
and does not stop to remember and look at the achievements he has achieved in
his life. He has a system of values and customs that he believes in, and he
lives his life according to what he sees as right. In terms of his affection,
the counselor is sometimes gentle and easy to get along with. However, he has
high expectations of himself and his family, and he does not accept anything
less than the ideal for himself and his family.
The counselor is by nature nurturing, patient,
helpful, and supportive. These qualities make him a loving father and he often
has a strong relationship with his children. He has high expectations of his
children, and always pushes them to be the best. This can be demonstrated by
the counselor being a stubborn and difficult personality. But in general, the consultant's
children receive the consultant's sincere devotion and guidance, along with
deep concern for them.
In the workplace, the consultant stands out in
positions where he can be creative and work independently. He has an artistic
sense by nature, and some consultants stand out in the field of pure science,
and their use of intuition helps them in this field. A consultant can also be
found in the service field. However, it does not deal well with works that are
precise or contain a lot of detail. The consultant will either ignore this type
of work or will go to the other extreme, where he will become so obsessed with
the details that he will not be able to see the bigger picture. This consultant
will be driven by his obsession with details to become harshly critical of all
individuals who do not care about minute details like him.
The Counselor is a person gifted with many things that
people of other personalities do not have. Life is not easy for a counselor,
but he has deep feelings and personal achievements that he will be able to
achieve in his life.
Counselor as husband/wife:
The counselor's husband is a caring and considerate
person for his husband and has a deep love and loyalty for his partner. He
enjoys showing this love and loves to hear confirmation of love from his
husband.
He always seeks perfection, and this is what he seeks
in the marital relationship as well. Sometimes the husband feels annoyed by the
many and loud requests of the consultant. But other times, this is a source of
appreciation, because it indicates commitment and sincerity to the marital
relationship and the depth of care that the counselor gives to this
relationship, which may not come from other types of personalities.
Although any relationship between people of the 16
classifications may be successful, the counselor's natural partner or spouse is
the inventor (ENTP) or the hero (ENFP).
Counselor as a parent:
The counselor is usually a caring and nurturing father
to his children. His goal is to help children grow and mature to differentiate
between what is right and what is wrong, and to become independent.
On the way to achieving this, the counselor gives his
children the tenderness and care they need and treats them as people who have
their voices heard in making family decisions. The counselor wants his children
to think for themselves and make the right decisions. He may be demanding of
his children, and he may also have high expectations for their behavior.
Although the counselor is gentle and gentle in his dealings with children, he
may become bitter and stubborn when the children do not live up to his
expectations, or when he is exposed to a lot of pressure.
The counselor takes his parenting role seriously. He
will make sacrifices for the benefit of his children without review or thought
and regret. In his life, transmitting values and principles to his children is
one of his most important priorities. The Chancellor's children remember their
father as a caring, patient, and inspiring person.
Counselor as a friend:
Friends come second to the family for a counselor.
Like idealists with a system of values and habits, the counselor seeks
authenticity and depth in his or her relationships, and in particular, the
counselor values people who respect the counselor as a person, and for what he
stands for and believes in.
The counselor is likely to establish his social
relationships with members of his family. Or he will establish relationships
around his residence or workplace. Next, the consultant will research and
establish relationships with anyone of any of the 16 personality types. The
counselor often has an intuition about people, and will not be patient with
anyone who the counselor feels is corrupt or dishonest. This type of person
will not attract the consultant's attention and will not have any inclination
to approach them.
People of all kinds admire the consultant. He is often
very popular in his surroundings, and the counselor is often not aware of this
popularity and love, because he does not pay much attention to it. The
counselor's close friends value him greatly for his kindness and caring, his
new and interesting ways of looking at things, and for his ability to motivate
and inspire people to be the best they can be.
Strengths in social life:
- Affectionate and encouraging by nature.
- Sensitive and concerned with the feelings of
others.
- Usually has good communication skills, especially
written.
- He takes his obligations seriously.
- He has high expectations of himself and others. (strong and weak points)
- A good listener.
Weakness in social life:
- He tends to reserve a part of himself.
- Not good at handling money, or necessary daily
operations.
- He greatly dislikes criticism, conflicts, or
disagreements.
- He has high expectations of himself and others. (strong and weak points)
Qualities of a consultant at
work:
- Understand people and situations intuitively.
- ideal.
- He has a principle.
- Complex and deep.
- A natural leader.
- Sensitive towards people.
- Servant.
- He has a future outlook.
- He values strong and deep relationships.
- He is cautious about disclosing his opinion and
himself.
- He hates dealing with details unless they help
him understand the situation better.
- Constantly searching for meaning and purpose in
everything.
- Creative and visionary.
- He can work according to reason and logic, using
his intuition to understand the goal and then find the way to achieve it.
Works that suit a consultant:
- Religious mentor, volunteer
worker.
- Teacher or mentor.
- doctor.
- Specialized in the field of alternative medicine.
- Psychologist or psychiatrist.
- A social counselor or counselor.
- An artist or photographer.
- Child care, and early education for children.
Famous consultants:
- Mathama Gandhi (Indian
spiritual leader).
- Thomas Jefferson (former US president and writer
of the Declaration of Independence).
- Adam Sandler (famous American actor).
- Queen Noor (wife of the former King of Jordan).
- Jamie Foxx (American actor).
- Khomeini (cleric and former Iranian leader).
- Osama bin Laden (founder and former leader of
Al-Qaeda).
- Kofi Annan (former President of the United
Nations).
Enhancing
the consultant's strengths:
Your personality is superior to other personalities in
several aspects. Knowing these points, focusing on them, and developing them,
will help you stand out and excel over your peers. Most counselors will notice
these qualities in themselves, which they should focus on and nurture:
- You have insight and the ability to discover
patterns and meanings that are not clear to others in the world and things
around you. This ability helps you do multiple different things in your
life. It also enables you to predict the future and read the people and
situations that you will experience during your life.
- When you face a situation or problem, you are
often and easily able to generate several possibilities and solutions to
the problem, with the help of your ability to see things from several
angles.
- You can read and understand the feelings of
others, and sincerely care about them. This empathy and sincere desire to
help others and empathize with them to solve their problems makes you a
better friend, consultant, spouse, or teacher.
- Mostly, you can notice the strength of your
determination and persistence in doing the work required of you. You are
not afraid of a lot of exhausting work, and when you believe in an idea or
cause, you do everything you have to achieve it. Here the importance of
clearly defining your goals is highlighted so that you can exploit this
point of strength to achieve them.
- You are a perfectionist and an idealist, always
striving for the best.
- You are an intelligent and intelligent person,
and you can concentrate easily. This enables you to understand the most
complex matters when you are determined to understand them.
A counselor who develops the social-emotional aspect
of himself will gain the following:
- He will be able to transform his understanding of
things and his reading of the future into concrete plans and steps.
- He will be able to activate the rational side of
himself, and thus he will be able to absorb additional and new ideas and
concepts beyond his normal mental abilities.
- He will reach a level of intelligence and acumen
that will make him appear wise.
- His search for perfection and idealism, in
addition to his sincere desire to help and empathize with others, makes
him a true servant of humanity and society. If this is added to his
ability to face the public and wisdom from life experiences, it will
create an influential and transformative personality in the consultant who
will leave his mark on the world.
Expected problems for the
consultant:
Most of the problems that a counselor is expected to
have stemmed from his introverted, intuitive nature. Therefore, some of these
characteristics may appear in it:
- He may make mistakes in his way of communicating
with others, and this may be unintentional and sometimes without care.
- He may turn his attention to the contributions
and ideas of others without giving them any consideration.
- He may be strict with others, but not with
himself.
- His ability to see things from many angles makes
him always see mistakes in the actions of others.
- He may have irrational or unreasonable expectations
of others.
- May not tolerate the weaknesses of others.
- He always thinks he is right.
- He may tend to look into minute details that are
not important to the big picture in most cases.
- He may be sarcastic, sharply sarcastic, and harsh
towards others.
- He may be quick to anger.
- His constant alertness and inability to relax
make him constantly tense and under pressure, thus exposing him to blood
pressure diseases.
- He may be spiteful and it is difficult to forgive
those who wrong him.
- He may be hesitant and unable to act and make a
quick decision regarding urgent matters.
- He may find it difficult to explain his thoughts
and feelings to others.
- His vision and comprehensive understanding make
him unable to focus on the big picture and find the way to the goal.
To overcome these points, you must know how to manage
the strict side of your personality and realize how you must follow to make
your decisions. The main problem stems from the fact that in some cases you may
rush to dismiss new ideas, not because they are bad, but because you did not
understand them properly. At first, try to take your time, receive the idea,
and analyze it through your intuition until you reach a good and comprehensive
understanding of it, then make the decision. Also, another problem that you
should be aware of is your rigidity and judgment about things that are outside
the scope of your ability to change. Try to find the potential for change
within the limits of what you are capable of and move from there.