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Engaging with Conflict: The Peacemaker Who Advocates (Type 9 Growth Direction)

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From passive to powerful! The Peacemaker (Type 9) finds their voice - explore how they advocate for what's right.


 The Enneagram describes a path of growth for each type. For the Peacemaker (Type 9), this journey leads them from a place of avoiding conflict and merging with the needs of others to a place of healthy assertiveness and advocating for what they believe in, integrating the wisdom of Type 3 (The Achiever). Here's how a Type 9 can move towards a more engaged and assertive way of dealing with conflict:

Understanding the Peacemaker (Type 9):

  • Core Motivation: To maintain inner peace and harmony in their environment.
  • Core Fear: Separation, loss of connection, and conflict.
  • Unhealthy Tendencies: Merging with the needs of others, going along to get along, disengaging from conflict, and difficulty making decisions.

The Growth Direction: Towards Type 3

As a Type 9 moves towards their growth direction (Type 3), they begin to integrate the following qualities:

  • Healthy Assertiveness: They develop a stronger sense of self-worth and learn to express their needs and opinions confidently. This allows them to engage in conflict constructively and advocate for what they believe in.
  • Goal Setting and Initiative: They overcome their tendency to become passive and develop the ability to set goals and take initiative. This allows them to actively work towards creating the peaceful and harmonious environment they desire.
  • Taking a Stand: While still valuing peace, they recognize that sometimes conflict is necessary. They learn to take a stand for their own values and needs, even if it means creating some temporary disharmony.

The Peacemaker Who Advocates

A Type 9 who has integrated the qualities of Type 3 becomes:

  • A Bridge Builder: Their natural desire for harmony is now combined with a newfound assertiveness. They become skilled at mediating conflict and finding solutions that work for everyone involved.
  • A Champion for Peace with Action: They don't just passively hope for peace; they actively work towards creating it. They advocate for causes they believe in and inspire others to do the same.
  • A Decisive Leader: They can overcome their indecisiveness and take charge when necessary. They lead with a calm and assertive presence, fostering a sense of security and trust within their teams.

Remember:

Growth is a journey, not a destination. There will be times when the Peacemaker might fall back into avoidance and merging. However, by understanding their growth direction, they can cultivate a more assertive and engaged way of navigating conflict. They can become bridge builders, champions for peace, and decisive leaders who create a more harmonious and just world.

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